Abstinence before marriage is an outdated idea in this day and age. So many young people are living for the moment and not really thinking about how their choices may affect them in the long run. But being someone who did not wait until they were married, I can promise you that it is so much better with the person you’re meant to be with. I believe God designed one person for each of us and that we connect with this person on so many more levels than we ever did with any other previous relationship, including intimacy.
Before my husband, sex was never something I really enjoyed, I just did it because that’s what you do when young and in a relationship (or not; I’ve done both). I would do it to keep the person happy or with me, because that is what I thought they wanted. If I’m being completely honest and raw, I never even experienced an orgasm before my husband. What I thought was good was nothing compared to what I know now. Having sex this way left me insecure and emotionally vulnerable. I thought this is what you do and it will be okay, but all I ended up feeling was sad and empty. Even when I was in a serious relationship with someone whom I thought I loved and that they loved me, sex just was not anything like it is with my husband. Not to mention, since there was no ring, the fear of lack of commitment made me worry, which in turn led to having sex to keep them around. Again, leaving me still feeling empty and insecure.
When you’re with your soulmate things are just better all around. During intimacy you connect on a much deeper level when with your spouse. It is as if you’re one. In Genesis 2 it discusses how God took a rib from man to make a woman. In Hebrew the word rib means structure, so what this verse is saying is that you cannot have a man without a woman, they need each other to survive and be structurally sound. Just like a husband and wife need each other. Sex when married is more enjoyable, fun and much more emotional. Before I’d worry about what I looked like, if I was performing good enough or if they’d stay after. But with my husband, I’m comfortable, content, relaxed and fulfilled.
When you have a bond with someone on a much deeper level than just physical it makes the physical aspect that much better. God designed sex for pleasure yes but between a husband and wife. So I promise you that the wait for your spouse is more than worth it!