What’s a surefire way to make yourself happy? It’s helping others. Yes, there are naysayers who will tell you helping others can be draining, especially when it comes to volunteer work as it may become overwhelming quickly resulting in burnout. But wait, do not worry–read on and in 5 minutes I’ll show you that it is possible to achieve happiness and it’s not difficult.
“Don’t go big, and stay close to home”
To the untrained yet well-meaning individual devising a plan to help others they’ll think on a large scale. Don’t do that. That will be your first mistake and the quickest way to get burned out resulting in feelings of failure rather than happiness. Look for who is in need right in front of you. These are people in your state, community, or even in your own home. Take notice on who is in need that you can easily contact whether they are close-by or you have the resources to easily do so. You can also check for any local programs in your area to see if anything peaks your interest.
Be intentional
The title of this article is No-Fail Happiness but happiness for whom? Maybe you thought happiness for you but in order for that to happen you must focus on the happiness of others first. Be intentional in delivering happiness to those you’ve chosen to help. This genuine approach will surely bring you happiness as well, probably more than them.
Give something up
Time, money, or both is what is required in helping others. “I’m busy, sorry” or “I’ve got too much on my plate right now” are common thoughts or responses when avoiding helping others. Why are you too busy or what is it that is too much? Evaluating where you spend your time is where you will find your answer. Everyone needs time to relax and perhaps indulge in a bit of self care but wasting time well, that is little to no benefit to you or others and isn’t relaxing or self care.
A hard truth–you probably spend way too much time scrolling on your phone. If this is your issue, which it likely is, you find yourself with not enough time in your day but know you are not alone. Millions of Americans struggle with screen time. It’s addictive and hard to pass up. Start monitoring your screen time, set forth designated (and short) times to scroll. Are you lacking willpower? I’m not afraid to admit I certainly am! If so, then delete any addictive apps from your phone (goodbye TikTok and Instagram!).
Maybe the time waster in your life is not scrolling. To figure out where you are wasting time, do some self evaluation by taking note of your day to day for a few days or a week. You’ll be able to see the patterns of your habits and what could be eliminated or done more efficiently.
Not enough money to help others? Know that there are many ways to help others that involve little to no money. Also know that time is always more valuable than supporting others financially. And your money normally took some of your time anyway.
Don’t overwhelm yourself by trying to impact the whole world. Start with those in front of you and use the resources you already have. You will discover happiness comes from genuine connections with others instead of short-lived satisfactions.