Everyone would like to say they would never be involved in an abusive relationship and no woman plans to be. But once dating an individual with these tendencies would you be able to recognize the signs that your boyfriend is or could become abusive? Not only you, but could your loved ones identify those same signs to help keep you safe? Here are 10 signs that your boyfriend is or could become abusive.
- Quick Involvement- He pressures you into a serious commitment at the very beginning of your relationship. He comes on very strong and fast with emotions. He pushes you to move in with him or even become engaged within 6 months of dating.
- Jealousy- He’s constantly checking on you; where you’ve been, who you’ve been with or who you’ve been talking to. He texts/calls you repeatedly for these same reasons. He may even accuse you of flirting with others.
- Controlling- In the beginning he will chalk his behavior up to being concerned about you. But then he will become obsessive about where you’ve been or what you’ve spent money on. He may check the mileage on your car, request receipts and demand you ask permission to spend money. It could even turn into you having to request to come and go from your own home.
- Isolation- He tries to get you to cut ties with friends or family. He may prevent you from using your car, phone or computer. And he may even try to stop you from holding a job.
- Hypersensitive- He is easily insulted and sees minor setbacks as personal attacks.
- Blames others for his mistakes- Nothing is ever his fault nor does he do anything wrong. He is constantly blaming you for anything and everything.
- Blames others for feelings- He will use his feelings to manipulate you. He’ll tell you you’re hurting him by not doing what he wants, or you make him mad, making you feel like you control his feelings.
- Verbal Abuse- He is constantly putting you down or criticizing you. He’ll call you names and even bring up things from your past or current life to use against you.
- Forceful during sex- He enjoys throwing you or holding you down against your will during sex. He manipulates you or demands sex when it’s unwanted.
- Rigid gender roles- He expects you to serve and obey. He views you as inferior and responsible for lowly tasks.
If you or someone you know is in a relationship with someone with these
characteristics, speak up and seek help. Your life could be at risk and it is worth
saving.