How to End an Abusive Relationship

Trying to end any significant relationship can be challenging. There are so many emotions at hand and you don’t want anyone to get hurt. But what if you’re in a relationship that is hurting you physically and/or emotionally? Many women stay in these relationships for many reasons including-they think he’ll change, they can help him, he promised to stop and/or for fear of their or their children’s lives if they try to leave. Women find themselves confused and scared in these situations. One minute they want to leave and the next they want to stay. If you’re in an abusive relationship you have to remember it is not your fault and your safety is the most important thing.

So what should you do once you’ve made the decision to leave? The first thing is to come up with a safety plan. This will help you feel more confident in leaving your abuser. For starters, let a family member or friend know you’re leaving the relationship. Ask them for emotional support and tell them when or where you are ending it so they can check in on you. If you don’t feel comfortable telling someone you know about what you’re going through, call a hotline to talk with someone who will support you and encourage you in your decision.

Find a safe place to go for a few nights after ending the relationship. Call 911 if your abuser hurts you or threatens to hurt you or themselves. Make sure to memorize a few phone numbers in case your abuser takes your phone or you leave it. Block your abuser from contacting you through text message or calling. Change passwords on social media, electronic devices or anything else that your partner may know. Prepare emergency funds in case your significant other has access to
your accounts. Finally remind yourself that you do not deserve to be abused. You deserve happiness and a better life. Write this down somewhere and reread it to give yourself strength.

After leaving an abusive relationship you must give yourself time to heal. Reach out to loved ones or support groups to help get you through these challenging times. If you find these things aren’t helping or you don’t want to talk in large groups or with people you know, reach out to a herapist or counselor to help you cope with your emotions. No matter what your situation is, no one eserves to be in an abusive relationship of any form and it is not your fault if you are in one. Don’t continue to put yourself through that, but instead seek help to get out of the relationship. There are many resources for women who have been through an abusive relationship including crisis hotlines, shelters, job training, legal services and childcare so start by reaching out today.

Visit the National Domestic Violence Hotline at https://www.thehotline.org