Dating in general has its own challenges but dating someone when you’re long distance, especially someone in the military, has a whole other set of challenges. So how do you survive this stage of your relationship while keeping it strong when you can’t see each other all the time?
Change your perspective
Try not to focus on the fact that you’re long distance but instead focus on how this will strengthen your communication and your relationship overall. By not seeing each other daily you have to talk because that’s all you have when you’re long distance. A study found that couples in long distance relationships share more meaningful thoughts and feelings with each other and communicate at a much deeper level. Remember things will get easier. The first few months are the hardest but if you can make it through that just think what else you and your significant other can get through.
Try a different form of communication
Writing letters is a lost art. Sure it’s easy to text or call someone but physically holding a letter from your loved one in your hands has much more meaning behind it. Not only that but you can keep letters and reread them on those harder days.
Don’t develop a false reality
Try not to look at your significant other as perfect. When you’re long distance you may not see each other’s imperfections right away so don’t get too upset when those imperfections start coming out. Know dating someone in the military comes with its own challenges. You may not always be able to talk on the phone or when you visit, stay with each other or see each other as long as you’d like. Military relationships have different obstacles than other relationships so be prepared for that.
Make reunions with each other special
Buy a new outfit or cook their favorite meal. Make sure to take lots of pictures and create fun memories with the time you have.
When apart, stay busy.
Instead of staying in and dwelling on your partner being far away from you, get involved and do things. Join a church or gym or go out with your friends and family. Staying busy and positive while they’re gone can help take the pressure off the relationship and the distance.