Navigating the dating scene is a challenge enough in itself without throwing kids into the mix. So how do you handle that situation, especially when things start to get serious?
Here are some tips to help:
Questions to Ask Yourself Before Dating: Prior to jumping into the dating game as a single parent you want to make sure you’re ready yourself. Answer these questions before going on that first date: Is there enough space for a significant other? What are my concerns or hesitations with dating? Can I juggle my time for my kids and a partner?
How to Discuss Dating with Your Kids: Once you’ve met someone you’re serious about you want to make sure to talk with your children prior to introducing them. Let your children know they are special and valuable to you and that this new person is not replacing them or their other parent. Assure your children you will still have time to spend with them even though you are dating. Let them know there are no expectations for how they feel towards this new person initially either.
When to Make Introductions: Before you introduce your children to the person you’re dating, you want to evaluate just how serious the relationship is. Is it more of a fling or something that will be long term? Introducing your children to someone you don’t see serious potential with can only complicate things down the road. You want to make sure the person shares mutual feelings about how serious you are as well prior to bringing your kids into the picture.
How to Introduce them: When planning how to introduce your significant other to your children make sure to plan it in a low key, family-friendly environment. Such as meeting at a park with a playground or having a movie night watching your child’s favorite movie.
Dating while being a single parent can be challenging and scary but focusing on the future will help remind you that these talks are just a stepping stone to what will hopefully become a healthy and long relationship.